It was a beautiful summer day before I entered my first year of junior high school. There was this cute girl who lived near me. Both of us, innocent and naive… we were just playing and then all of a sudden, she looked me in the eyes and asked, “if I kiss you, will I get the same thing you have?”

I was shy and almost speechless, not quite understanding what she meant… I wasn’t thinking about my CP…. I said, “I don’t know.” She leaned over and kissed me right on the lips! Her eyes were closed but mine were wide open! And that kiss, while only brief, seemed quite long in that moment! We both pulled back and looked at each other like, “what just happened?” Silently, she looks at her hands and then up and down her body. With glossy eyes and a huge smile on her face, she leaned towards me and said, “nothing happened!”

In my youth, there were times that I’d go to parties or on dates and girls would ask me “If I kiss you, or we are intimate, will I get the same disease you have?” At first, I didn’t understand why they would ask such a thing, but then I’d explain to them that I don’t have a disease and it’s not contagious. It’s just a lack of oxygen to my motor cells. Another thing they’d ask is if I was capable of intimate relations. I’d look them straight in the eye and ask them if they’d like to find out! Wink, wink! (Please know that, as I’ve grown older and wiser, I understand that this response may not be socially acceptable and would no longer reply in the same way.)

When people are younger and they don’t fully understand, they are curious. When I was younger, it was painful for me because I didn’t want people to get the wrong impression about me. As I grew up, I understood why they asked. Children are naturally curious. Stay tuned for my next blog post all about kids, parents, their questions, and kids being told not to ask questions by their parents. 

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